This does not surprise me at all. As a makeup artist for the last ten years, I get to hear it all. When a woman sits in my makeup chair, she rarely has anything positive to say about her looks. It is definitely disheartening. The main point of this Dove video is why I wrote my book Fearless Beauty: A Woman’s Guide to Living Bold, Beautiful & Free. I want to help break down the blocks that prevent women from seeing their natural beauty and embrace the fullness of who she is.
As you can see in the video, women are hard on themselves. It’s clear that when we are asked to describe ourselves, we don’t want to accurately describe our positive features. We tend to downplay them. Why is this? Well, there’s a negative stigma out there for people that think highly of themselves. When someone says how they feel pretty, or think they look good, there’s always someone rolling their eyes, or saying they’re self-centered or conceited. This isn’t how it should be! We should all be saying how awesome we feel all of the time and how much we love the way we look. Since when was it better to walk around feeling terrible about ourselves instead of knowing how gorgeous we are and flaunting it!?
This stigma is painful. It prevents women from focusing on anything positive about their bodies, and encourages them to focus on the negatives, and even emphasize them. The stigma makes our pores 10 times bigger, our nose 15 times more crooked, and our skin 20 times more wrinkled and flawed. Guess what? It’s not. It’s perfect. We are all beautiful and we need to realize that! We must stop hating on ourselves and forget the stigma.
What do you think of yourself? You probably don’t love everything about your face, or your body. Okay, that’s understandable, we’re never 100% happy with every, single aspect of ourselves. Let’s learn to love those things. I want you to feel the beauty that you have. Write down three things that you LOVE about yourself. Just write them down. These three things can turn into six, and then twelve, keep the list going!
Once you realize what you totally love about yourself, just focus on those things. Think about them and emphasize them. Once you’re aware of how much you love yourself, you won’t speak badly about them. You wouldn’t speak badly about your best friend, so don’t speak badly about your skin, hair, face, love handles, etc. Your body is with you through thick and thin, so respect it and love it, just like it was your best friend. This is what an ideal world would look like, women loving their appearances!
Instead of making your face over, give your mind a makeover! You don’t need lipstick and botox to be beautiful; you need to realize you’re absolutely beautiful, minus all of the other additions. Make your mind over!
Back to my book, Fearless Beauty: A Woman’s Guide to Living Bold, Beautiful and Free. This is your key to feeling better about yourself. You’ll have a new-found awareness of what’s inside of you making you feel the way you do. In the journey you’ll take with my book, you’ll feel better about yourself and those around you. All women deserve to feel beautiful and in-turn BE beautiful. Fearless Beauty can do that for you.