Are you afraid of failing? When you fail at something, do you put yourself down harshly for it? Does failing at something make you feel like a failure as a human being? Have you considered how much your physical appearance is affected by how you handle failure? Whether you admit it or not how you feel about your looks is directly impacted by how you manage your self-esteem. If you fear failing, you are adversely lowering your self-esteem and missing out on some very important life lessons that failure can teach you.
Let’s face it, there’s no doubt that success feels better than failure. When we succeed, we feel good; we even feel great. We get lots of praise from other people when we succeed. Success tells us we’re on the right track. Success means we’re good. We’re great. When we succeed, we approve of ourselves.
On the other hand, failure often feels terrible. Failure means we made a mistake. For many of us, failing means we’re not good enough. It means we are inferior. We don’t deserve anybody’s respect, not even our own. We often feel so humiliated when we fail, that we never try again. We lose our courage and we lose our self respect.
But is this really the right way to look at failure? Failure actually has a lot to teach us. In fact, we can learn more lessons from failure than we can learn from success. All of us fail at times and all of us succeed at times. Those of us who never learn how to handle failure will be less likely to achieve success in the long run.
Instead of looking at failure as a judgment upon your worth as a human being, you need to start looking for the important lessons in failure:
- Sometimes the lesson of failure is that a particular path is a dead end.
- Sometimes the lesson is that we need to try harder on that path.
- Sometimes the lesson is that we need to take a different approach.
- Sometimes the only lesson we learn from failure is that we need to stand tall and keep trying.
Learning how to respond to failure with our own pride and dignity intact will in the long run help us to feel better about our self-image. Prevent us from spending lots of money and time fixing our appearance in an attempt to feel good about our life and help us to build skills necessary to handle failure. Getting back up after being knocked down is triumphant, feels good and is quite sexy.
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