My mom in every way has influenced just about every aspect of my life. She taught me how to speak up for myself, ask for what I want and be persistent. Along with all of her kick-ass character traits she also instilled in me some of her neurosis.
She taught me that my appearance matters and I should always dress appropriate for the occasion. To this day I would not be caught dead wearing a wrinkled shirt or God forbid have strings hanging from your skirt. I also picked up on many of her subtle self-belittling comments she would have with herself in front of the mirror. She was always on a diet, finishing a diet or about to start a diet. Her weight was a major point of contention and she never seemed to be happy with her body no matter what her weight was.
Before I started my journey of self-acceptance I would always be very critical of my body and although I’ve never been overweight. I have been at times overly concerned with my appearance to the point I would show up late for very important meetings because something seemed out of place. Or, I have refused to wear shorts in 100 degree weather because I could see a dimple or two in the meaty part of my thigh.
You too have likely picked up a thing or two about your body from your mother that has you a little or a lot concerned with your appearance. Your mother may have planted those self-critical seeds in your head, but there is no need for you to keep tending to that garden if it is not making you feel confident about your body.
Body confidence starts with forgiveness. Meaning, letting go of all those thoughts about your body that doesn’t support you feeling good about your body. Do a body check in the mirror and as you scan different parts of your body be aware if that little voice in your head. Is it your own or your mother’s? If it is your mother’s and it is not positive, first thank that little voice for sharing and declare you are ready to start a new internal dialogue.
This mother’s day be sure to thank your mother for all the wonderful gifts she has given you and share with her some of the positive declarations you have made for yourself around your body. It just might inspire a whole new level of body confidence in her!!!